The Harshness of Interruptions

When I read this this essay by Nancy Kline of Time to Think I thought, ”YES!” I’ll go further - I felt, “YES!” Kline speaks, not mincing her words, of how interruption is an assault. In the first paragraph of the essay she says as much, Interruption is assault. She goes on to …

Chronic Fatigue and the HSP

There’s pattern which repeats itself pretty much each time I find myself home alone for a few days - which with the presence of the COVID pandemic is not that often right now. It goes something like this, I drop my wife off at the airport - living on an island, that is usually the start of the home …

The Comfort of Memories

I find myself sitting in my car on our driveway. It is overcast and there is steady stream of rain falling. The weather looks set in for the day, and likely tomorrow as well.  I feel at ease, comfortable, safe. This weather takes me back to weather in Britain that I grew up with. At times it might …

Video - The power of quiet leadership

A short, inspiring video on the power of quiet leadership. The power of quiet leadership - BBC Ideas

I am looking forward to the 2nd Highly Sensitive Men’s Seminar this coming Saturday. Most of all to sit in the company, virtually, with men of a the same personality trait as myself, to share stories and experiences. I believe that there is still time to sign up?

The Introvert and The Wet Weather

In this little corner of Hawai’i the wet weather has been slow in coming. While the seasonal changes are not as noticeable as in the far northern hemisphere, there is a subtle, perceptible change in the atmosphere - the light, the sensed feeling of the days. Autumn arrived a few weeks ago . . . in …

May Meditation Nudge 26

Breaking my own suggestions This is an ongoing series running through May to compliment the twice weekly meditation sessions that I will be hosting on YouTube (the videos have now been moved to my Vimeo page). If you have any questions, please contact me. I titled one of the earlier articles in this …

It’s raining right now. The forecast is for overcast weather through the day, and the likelihood of more rain. For the most part I will be by myself today. Overcast, rain and by myself feel like ideal working conditions for me.

An observation, no judgements, just an observation. Extrovert and introvert sit outside together on a beautiful evening, to eat dinner. Extrovert sits there exclaiming enthusiastically and describing the scene. Introvert sits there, saying nothing, just taking it all in.

When you are the lone one amongst many

When you are the solitary introvert or HSP amongst many who are not. When you are the quiet one and your actions or needs are looked on as being off or odd. When you are looked on as not fitting in, and the sole justification is because of what everyone else is doing. When your different needs are …

One of the things that I like about being an introvert is being happy and secure in my own company. In fact sometimes I have to be careful that I do not get too comfortable with that. I do have a family and friends after all! I sneaked in a past #mbnov word for good measure. 😁

I love meeting new people and the company of others, but as an introvert I sometimes just need to be alone. Please don’t take it personally. At times it is simply a need that I have in order just to be in the world.

The Exhaustion of a Family Visit

From my experience people visiting and staying in my home always requires a break in my routine. There is entertaining, showing around, just more going on and the house feeling busier and more full. I don’t say this to complain, just acknowledging what the welcoming of visitors entails. For …

130 Guests and Me

This is a post written in installments over the course of, and just after a weekend of wedding celebrations. A weekend of activities that were just made for me… not. .. Having said that, I do wish to empathize that I am here to enjoy myself, make new friends and most importantly celebrate the …

Tonight is the monthly meeting of the Introvert/Highly Sensitive men’s group here on Maui. I started it about 19 months ago, unsure if there would be a call for it. Now it is a fixture on the calendar.

I have just put the 2nd edition of my Meditation eBook up on my website. Although titled that it is aimed at introverts and highly sensitive people, anyone who wishes to build a meditation practice will find benefit in it.

I have finally put my book on building a Meditation practice, along with tips on how meditation can help introverts and HSPs, up onto my website.

An Incredible Journey Being introverted or highly sensitive doesn’t fit the archetypal image of a male, but some of us are just wired that way. I wanted to give men a place where they can talk about it. A recent article about me that appeared in The Maui News.

Frayed Nerves

I am not going to pretend that I can work well when I know that people are around who might call on me at any moment, because I can’t. Loud music, disturbances, kids shouting, people talking, these distractions and others just throw me when it comes to working. Sometimes, most of the time, just …

Finding Solace in Memories

Introverts spend a lot of time in their inner lives. It is what makes us introverts. We sit, process, think, ruminate and so much so that the external world can sometimes be just too much for us. It is why at times we just want to be quiet, or can seem remote, aloof. We are not ignoring you, just …

Just before the men arrived for the 3rd gathering of Introvert/HSP I-Group here on Maui.

Finding stillness in quiet reflections. New on the blog - finding nourishment in life as an introvert and/or hsp when you feel shaken up - link in the bio.

Getting Things Done When the World Around You is Spinning Out of Control

Can you move from frantic behaviour to concentration? Can you move from disturbance to instant focus? Can you jump from requests for help to focusing on a job that you are trying to get done? ​I can’t! Spinning on that sort of dime doesn’t fit my personality. I need to have time set …

“Boxes, boxes everywhere, and still no place to sit,” with apologies to Hemmingway. With a recent move it feels as though we have been unpacking boxes forever. It has been a real patience practice as I yearn to get back to more creative endeavors, as well as my introverted nature calling …

Sitting in complete silence in our new Barn. Complete silence and stillness such that my ears are ringing. It is in such situations that I can come to peace. The commotion in my mind settles. My heart settles, my body settles, my breathing settles. And with that comes an inner stillness, and greater …